Saturday, June 30, 2018

Ideas for our daughters

  There was a casting call so I showed up and worked as an extra for a video for the county. The county needs more funding for parks. Pickett's Mill is a park and battlefield in Paulding County. During 1863, within one hour 600 men died, and another hour even more with rain and intense rain and thunder. It was the main battle that the South won before Atlanta was taken. 

The commercial may come out in a month or two in the State, but more probably in the county.

IDEAS to teach our daughters:
A. Use the Buddy System with self defense and safety awareness. 

1. Make your bed every day, even if it's right before you get in it.
2. You don’t have to wear underwear... if you're in an accident they’ll just cut your clothes off anyway.
3. Travel light through life. Keep only what you need.
4. It’s okay to cry when you’re hurt. It’s also okay to smash (some) things; but, wash your face, clean your mess, and get up off the floor when you’re done. You don’t belong down there.
5. If you’re going to curse, be clever. If you’re going to curse in public, know your audience.
6. Seek out the people and places that resonate with your soul.
7. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
8. 5-second rule. It’s just dirt. There are worse things in a fast food cheeseburger.
9. You are a woman, you do not NEED a man!
10. Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t confuse these.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack your bag.
12. Never walk through an alley.
13. Be less sugar, more spice, and only as nice as you’re able to without compromising yourself.
14. Can’t is a cop-out.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard. Then be your own hero.
16. If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to.
17. Never lie to yourself.
18. Your body, your rules.
19. If you have an opinion, you better know why.
20. Practice your passions.
21. Ask for what you want. The worst thing they can say is no.
22. Wish on stars and dandelions, then get to work to make them happen.
23. Stay as sweet as you are.
24. Fall in love often. Particularly with ideas, art, music, literature, food and far-off places.
25. Fall hard and forever in love with nothing but yourself.
26. Say Please, Thank You, and Pardon Me, whenever the situation warrants it.
27. Reserve “I’m sorry” for when you truly are.
28. Naps are for grown-ups, too.
29. Question everything, except your own intuition.
30. You have enough. You are enough.
31. You are amazing! Don't let anyone ever make you feel you are not. If someone does....walk away. You deserve better.
32. No matter where you are, you can always come home.
33. Be happy and remember your roots, family is EVERYTHING.
34. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
35. No one will ever love you more than I do.
36. Be kind; treat others how you would like them to treat you.
37. If in doubt, remember whose daughter you are and straighten your crown and own it like a boss!

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Sensitive skin

 Does your skin crawl when you think something is amiss? Why not act on it?

How did all of those children have parents on side of a screen/wall while children were being molested in the Olympics? 

Have you gone to see something that is satire with terrible cruelty and violence (aka deadpool) recently? What are you going to do with that? Will you become a better person or a crass person? Will it instill a "that is too terrible for me" or "they can do it, why not me?"

Tell a woman today about the Buddy System. And Fear Thou Not (Buddy System) when you shop on Amazon. 

Thursday, May 3, 2018


Your shopping matters. This Mother's Day, shop for Mom at and Amazon donates to Fear Thou Not.   

I hope to make more of a difference. Please pass to others?

Fear Thou Not 501(c)3

Here is a suggestion to buy something. I don't know if it is on Amazon. It needs to be! Crash Safe

Watch the video on Youtube please and then get one using the link for Fear Thou Not at Amazon.

Thursday, April 5, 2018

How will we help women see the Buddy System in print

  Write about the Buddy System in pink, or for women!

I would love people to write about the Buddy System for women. Who cares? Women? Men who care about women? Children who love their mothers, aunts, sisters? 

Where do we need to write about the Buddy System for women? Girl Scouts, churches, schools and hospitals since these are the institutions where women work and participate! Social media, newspapers, magazines, journals, bill boards, plays, movies, soap operas, radio, television can use information that has been written about the Buddy System.

What kinds of things need to be writtten? Encouragement? Ways to use the Buddy System! How to use the Buddy System with safety awareness, and self defense. The need for safety awareness is lower when you have 2 or more people in many circumstances.

Friday, March 16, 2018

3:16 Day

  How do you read John 3:16? Do you say, "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that (my name) would believe in him would have everlasting life?"

Try it a few times, and then share with someone. My first book, Fertile Prayers: Daily Fertile Prayers once received a response from a lady, "Your book is like a daily meditation and not only for people trying for babies." I thought she was putting the book down as not specific enough or focused on babies enough, instead I later realized she noticed that PRAYERS are fertile or PRAYERS are sterile, and not just bodies of humans. So anyone could read Fertile Prayers and be better for it.  She gave me a gift.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018


 When is it time to stop talking about the Buddy System for women? No one is listening. No one cares. Will Easter be the last time I say anything about the Buddy System for women?

Men would riot if the Buddy System was taken away. No one cares if women use the Buddy System. Men don't care. Women don't care. Does the Easter Bunny care if women use the Buddy System?

In the Bible places like Luke 10:1 gives directions to use the Buddy System for all people. Some religions drill this into studies and people take that seriously.

Friday, February 16, 2018

#BuddySystem, #AutoharpsNchurches, #Poncho Power

   I agree. France has no comparison to the US in guns. Still a man got on a train in Amsterdam prepared to kill everyone on the train. Three unarmed men disarmed the shooter. Guns are not necessary for disarming a shooter. People still have knives and other tools of violence. I understand what the NRA stands for, and it is about the tyranny of government as much as defending life and limb t
hat they want guns. I was taught to secure your weapon. I didn't have mental illness, or parents with mental illness. Many people do have mental illness and parents with mental illness. I teach the Buddy System to women because it is not in print for women in the same volume for women as for men. Police, military, hunting, and 15 activities that are male dominated print articles about the buddy system daily, weekly, and monthly. Men would riot if you tried to take the Buddy System away from them. Women not so much. An article in 2009, and a couple in 2016 because of taxi driver rapes were published for women. There is no comparison that men have social and written cues to use the Buddy System far and above what women are told and read. I say write Buddy System in pink. Get the point across. It helps women more. The Tree Mother, Wangari Matthai taught planting trees and the buddy system in Africa. Both deter rapes. South Africa planted millions of trees in 2009, and other countries are exploring bamboo for fire and charcoal. Not much is written about the Buddy System yet on any continent. Prove me wrong, please. I will thank you.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

What would happen if men were no longer allowed to use the Buddy System

Would men riot? Would men break the rules and use the Buddy System? How strongly do you feel about the Buddy System ?

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

Buddy System collage Feb. 8, 2018 Hiram, GA Michael's

  RSVP to:
Thursday morning, February 8, at 9:30 am next week I would like 5 to 10 people to come to Michael's and make a collage of some pictures and stickers and funky lace and edging to make a mini-collage for the Buddy System. Cost? Free! Where? Hiram, Georgia Michael's. Time? 9:30 am until 11:30 am! 

Subject: COLLAGE
Cost? Free
You get to take your collage home!

Saturday, December 30, 2017

People act like you are wrong until they find

 Buddy system for women is not in current print. Men who carry guns have daily, weekly and monthly articles, newsletters, emails for them. It is a thing. Write Buddy System in pink!

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Spades Cosmetic Show

If you want $11,255.00 worth of products, be the last to leave a conference and stop at Spades Cosmetics Trade Show to buy 14 boxes for $2,568.00 and only be charged for 4 boxes. If you have a reaction on the way to your room in the Margaritaville Beach Resort and call the company the next morning several times before they return your call, and you are then told there are no returns, the products are not hypoallergenic and the reaction you received from samples could not have been from their products, and the manager will not help, you are stuck with $11,255.00 worth of products that have never been opened.  

They are high pressured sales, telling me that my husband would not care if I spent this much money, and my sister, who is saying no, really wants these products, and totally ignoring me several times when I said no. They never told me I was not allowed to return the products. They charged me for a few products and gave me 14. 

I had someone on my side there and no one put a gun to my head telling me to sign. They had products on my face, my credit card, and pressure. 

Sometimes it is not easy to walk away. I would not be complaining but for one problem. Before I got back to my feather free hotel room, my head was hurting. Could it have been the chemicals?

How would you avoid high pressure sales? The best way is to walk away. The best way is to not hand someone your credit card. I had no idea I would have so many products and such high priced products added to my card. It isn't about the money, is it? I am upset about the headache. I am upset because the products are not hypoallergenic.

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

#metoo #buddysystem

At meetings and conferences do not lag behind. Go with the group of people.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Fund raiser

  Shop for everyone on your gift list this holiday at and Amazon donates to Fear Thou Not.

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Red Ink Pens Prevents Violence Against Women

  What do you want for Christmas?

Perhaps a red ink pen with a nonprofit address on it and stylus for your smart phone?  Do you want to make a donation?
 (My name must appear on the check since I don't have a business account since you need MONEY for a business account!)

Rev. Charlotte Fairchild, Fear Thou Not
P.O. Box 1803
Douglasville, GA 30133

If you send a check it must have my name on it. I do not have a bank account for my nonprofit since money is the only way to get a business account and I don't get enough donations to have a bank account for Fear Thou Not (Buddy System, Poncho Power, Autoharp Angels n Churches) for women and churches.

Or buy this book and give it to someone or your church for Christmas!  Fertile Prayers: Daily Fertile Prayers (Because if your prayers are not Fertile, what are they?)

And Murder on the Silver Comet Trail to learn more about the Buddy System for women: and support the ministry to women preventing violence against women. 

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Painted rocks

  Why not paint rocks for the signs on the Silver Comet Trail  safety signs with Buddy System painted in pink? #paintItinPink #BuddySystem 

Jennifer Ewing was killed by a man using rocks to hurt her. I bought black rocks and the paint would not stick. Where am I going to get money for rocks? I have a gallon of paint and a lot of brushes from Ikea. 

Who wants to paint rocks? 
comment if you want to paint rocks on this blog comments. No one comments.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

#MeToo Craft Fairs

  Has anything happened to you in public, as in Craft Fairs? The worst that ever happened to me was it rained and I had 3 boxes of books. Some of the people had tents and did not offer to help protect my books. At Craft Fairs there are back 40 corners. Because I have been given Back 40 corners, that is where I START so that I can buy something from the people who are given the worst places at a Craft Fair.  Why are people going to help each other? Because we need each other. Don't go after Harvey Weinstein because he is Jewish and successful. Go after him because he opened up and decided to be a better man. The other men need to step up to be better men.

Cuddle Party teaches boundaries and consent. This means simple things like no alcohol, drugs, and asking before you make any move on anyone making sure power is not the reason you are getting what you want. Cuddlist helps people who want to be safe and receive affection with boundaries. If you think like a predator, these two workshop style businesses/nonprofits can make a difference. They both teach consent and are non sexual. 

Friday, August 25, 2017

Who am I?

I am someone who experiences sexism. Ask me about it and I will tell you. 

Who are you? If you are a woman, even a successful woman, you experience sexism. When you take a taxi alone in New York, how are you going to stop rape if the driver wants to rape you? Look in the literature and tell me. Please.

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Buddy System in church

Why does anyone need the Buddy System in church? 

People can insult people in church. People can be cold in church. People can molest in church. People can  be unloving in church. It cannot hurt to have a Buddy System in church.

Thursday, August 3, 2017

This is one of 13 or 14 blogs I have

Do a search on Charlotte Fairchild blog and you might be surprised. 

God has blessed me with a long life. I am no Mozart. I have written some songs. What song/poem would you like to hear about the Buddy System? Scriptural? Hallmark or Dr. Seuss like? Can you write a song about the Buddy System?

Thursday, June 22, 2017

#BuddySystem to decrease violence against women

I have a nonprofit and would be grateful if you would sign this petition and share it. is the best article I have found with information that helps. The Buddy System is not in our consciousness or literature. I would like that to change so that it is more common for us. I know there was info about the Taxi Drivers in New York. Not much helpful came out of that to stop Taxi Drivers. Please sign the following link

Saturday, June 10, 2017

How many people respond to a whistle

A dog was missing so I walked through the neighborhood blowing a plastic whistle. No neighbor came outside, and every dog in the neighborhood barked. If I had been attacked I would have been a goner and that is truth. Where was my husband? He didn't want to walk in the neighborhood with me. Most husbands don't do much with their spouses and that is truth. Men are not targets like women are and that is truth. 

Do you know about my EIN 27-0123298, Fear Thou Not ministry? I go to a different church every Sunday and tell one person about the autoharp and autoharp angels, I tell women about the Buddy System because it is not common sense and it is not common knowledge for women since it is not in our yearly much less daily literature like it is for police, military, and hunters who are mainly male who carry weapons. Poncho Power on Youtube for women with breast cancer and women who breast feed. Donations can be made to Rev. Charlotte Fairchild, P.O. Box 1803, Douglasville, GA 30133 any time you get a windfall and want to spread the love. for autoharps,, and and I write books. especially needed at Father's Day and Mother's Day and when blindsided no matter what age you may be, or for pregnant women who are anxious, and

Do you know about kudzu questions? Google it.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

How many people do you know with an active neighborhood?

We are all becoming introverted and no one talks to other people. We all spend too much time watching television.

Make some food and take it to a neighbor just because.
  • Mango, Avocado and water smoothie
  • 1 Mango (5 ounces of frozen from Sam's Club)
  • 1 Avocado
  • 1 generous sprinkle of nutmeg
  • Honey or Stevia,
  • Water
  • Blend in a blender

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

  Can you imagine if 100% of the violence against women stopped? We can make a difference when we use the Buddy System. Georgia State Parks have the Buddy System as a tip for hiking. This makes sense and will help women's safety. 

Know safety awareness and self defense too when hiking. There are many tips on the site and I hope you all read the tips. The Silver Comet Trail could add some of these tips and make the Silver Comet Trail safer.  

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

How many reasons are there for women to use the Buddy System

  Can you imagine women deciding they would never use the Buddy System and each woman on this planet went alone everywhere and anywhere?  Can you imagine how much time and money would be wasted going alone everywhere and anywhere? Can you imagine how much more crime we would have for women to be alone at all times. 

Men don't do things alone. They hunt, fish, scuba dive, sky dive, police, fight battles, kayak, snow mobile and they do many things in pairs. Why do they value the company? What is with this "watch your back" talk?

Thursday, April 13, 2017

What do you pray for

         What is your Prayer?

1.     What is your prayer?

2.     Alkaline water (1 quart/30 pounds of body weight)

3.     Alkaline food (blender or juicer)

4. ($50.00 instant online music for healing and a book.)

5.     www.pHMlife stuff and free book

6.     Videos with Robert O. Young
7.     Crazy, Sexy Cancer with Kris Carr (Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer remission for 15 years)
8.     Joe Cross juicing video 80% GREENS

9.     Solo Star II Juicer ($205.00) or blender

10.   The Book of Kudzu by William Shurtleff for kudzu root recipes. Stanford U.

11.   Kudz research for detoxing liver is western medicine. There is a lot of research.

12.   Google for 250,000 recipes for kudzu 

This is what I do to help me. Ask your

doctor about how this can help you.

13.   Mold Elimination Diet pdf has a list of

really acidic foods high in mold. Mold is toxic.

14.   Laughter every day on purpose. LOOK for funny things.

15.   Inconceivable by Julia Indochinova tells how a woman can lower her FSH with greens and meditation.

Thursday, April 6, 2017

Put "Buddy System" on signs on trails. Many safety rules on the etiquette signs leave out the most important: Buddy System. Men with guns use back up. Women are alone on the trails in the USA w/no reminders to use the Buddy System. Police/military/hunters know back up makes a difference. The last women's magazine with useful information about how to use the Buddy System was in Cosmopolitan 2009. Did violence against women stop enough for us to end telling women about back up, 2 in 2 out, I got your back? I wrote Murder on the Silver Comet Trail (comedy) 2 years before Jennifer Ewing was murdered. My nonprofit ministry is Fear Thou Not, EIN 27-0321298. No institution tells women to use the Buddy System. No one in our culture makes it clear the benefits of 2 in 2 out for women like fishing, scuba diving, sky diving, kayaking, snow mobile clubs, prison guards, military, hunting, police, firefighters, EMT/EMS do for men. Men have a culture of back up. Where does that leave women? Put "Buddy System" on the signs for trails.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Traveling to another country

 Ever heard of gendercide? People do it with abortion and infanticide all over the world, including the USA. If you have ever heard of a baby abandoned in a trash bag or in the woods or in a dumpster or in a bathroom, then that is infanticide. Some babies survive and many do not--all over the world including the USA. Gendercide is abortion. Women who are forced to have abortions many times have abortions because the fetus is female and the family does not want a female. In China there was a documentary and the mother wanted her baby so she made a deal to take on another job to pay the fine of having 2 children. Her husband, and many males in many cultures want a son to be "just like him." If there is pink, then there has been gendercide. We are naturally more female than male in births. War also impacts gender since mostly men fight. When men decide to kill civilians, women and their children are killed. Any comments? 2 Chronicles 7:14King James Version (KJV)
14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

How much thought do you need for the Buddy System?

Look how much thought Scuba Divers give to the Buddy System. How much thought do you give to the Buddy System? As many as 7% of all rapes happen in parking lots. How many abductions happen in parking lots? How can you be safer? 

Women need to leave the store with other women or ask an employee to walk to the car with you if it isn't busy. Talk to other women in the parking lot. Most women do not abduct, molest, rape or mug. Make the world friendlier and safer by saying hello to women and look around sometimes!

Friday, March 24, 2017

Protect women

   Do not touch girls or women inappropriately. Do not put your hands underneath clothing without permission.

The message in Japan is like the rape kits on the shelf. No one bothered. Now women are standing up for security and safety of women and they are bothering to care. Please read. Please, if you are in police, watch the back of children. 

Friday, February 24, 2017

Buddy System please share

Do you want to stop violence against women? Please share for an easy way to prevent violence against women.

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Buddy System GoFundMe

Want to remind more women to prevent crime with the Buddy System? Men use the Buddy System much more than women do.


Sunday, February 19, 2017

Politics will not make anyone safer?

    Use the Buddy System every day no matter what the news says, or what politics says. 

Being safe is as simple as the Buddy System.

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Want a new tee-shirt to stop rape?

Go to Twitter to @Charfair. I have a tee-shirt I designed that benefits my nonprofit Fear Thou Not.
Be the first to order a tee-shirt to stop rape, to save money, and to tell women to use the Buddy System!

Are you on Twitter? I am Charfair on Twitter. 
Steven Pinker is on Twitter who is a linguist at MIT or somewhere. He didn't go to a woman's college is all I know about him.
1.  What our language habits reveal.
2. Human Nature and the Blank Slate
3. The surprising Delcine in Violence

4. Violence against women: Its a men's issue

Men teach the Buddy System in police, military, hunting, fishing, prison guards, fire fighters, scuba/sky divers, snowmobile clubs, kayakers and every male group has an article or meme or newsletter about the BUDDY SYSTEM EVERY WEEK AND EVERY MONTH. I have a nonprofit that tells women Buddy System/BuddySister to use the SAFETY AWARENESS, SELF DEFENSE AND 2 in 2 out, watch your back, I've got your back.

I have a tee-shirt that tells women to use the Buddy System on my Twitter page.
The last article about the Buddy System for women was in Cosmopolitan in 2009. 
When was the last book published on the Buddy System for women? 

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Holiday giving with Amazon Smile

  Painless giving is using Amazon Smile to buy your things and a tiny percentage is given to Fear Thou Not to spread the word for women to use the Buddy System!

Holiday shopping is easy with Amazon's Holiday Gift Guides. #StartWithaSmile at for your holiday gifts and Amazon donates to Fear Thou Not.

  Remember, use the Buddy System in parking lots and at parties! Safety awareness and self defense look at Just Yell Fire

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Smile Amazon

  Do you want to give without paying? When you buy on Amazon, use the button on this blog that says Amazon Smile and you will be able to buy whatever at the normal price and a small percentage is given to Fear Thou Not which teaches the Buddy System, Poncho Power, Autoharps belong in Churches, Prayers, Praising God, and asks the question where does it say to stop weighing food after Joseph taught us how to weigh in Egypt and God taught us to weigh food in the Wilderness and Jesus taught us to weigh food in Luke 9? A cross is a crucifix, a sword, an anchor and a food scale 1 John 2:1-2 because our Advocate is a lawyer before God and the symbol of justice is a food scale found in stained glass in many churches including Flipper Temple and Little Bethel in Atlanta, Georgia,, Fertility.  

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Buddy System by another name

  What are some other names for Buddy System? 2 in 2 out? Bring a friend? Girlfriend? Ninja guard? 

Do you hear these terms more than Buddy System? How often?

Scuba Diving magazines have an article in every issue for the Buddy System. This is a mostly man's magazine. 50% of all divers are not women by any means. 

#Cosmopolitan needs to put an article in every issue to use the Buddy System.

Sunday, October 9, 2016

Women talk or we are silent

  You mean to say we are silent when we are being raped and tortured and our sisters, mothers, daughters, aunts are being raped and tortured? How many Buddy System articles have YOU  seen in the $10.00 + magazines that YOU buy? Don't these women magazines know that the article published in Cosmopolitan in 2009 didn't stop all rape and torture? Don't they know we WANT more talk about something that needs the #buddysystem?  What are you going to do about it? Are you going to TALK? Will silence stop one more rape? Will silence stop one more torture? What are women good at? Please don't tell me we are good at silence! Because we have been doing our best to be silent for far too long! Go on Twitter and hashtag #buddysystem every day. Go on Facebook and Google+ and anything else you do and hashtag #buddysystem every day until the last rape and torture of women. Make a difference. Do what you are good at, TALK! Scuba Divers have Buddy System articles in EVERY issue. Make that known to every magazine that takes your money. And keep doing what you do best! Talk is the best! Read this author Andrea Parrot and read the book Murder on the Silver Comet Trail and then take that book and loan it out to other women so they can read about the Buddy System. 

The first thing women do is talk

  Have you noticed any talk about the Buddy System around other women?  Yeah, me neither. Are there more shirts that say "Buddy System" than "Harley-Davidson" at your local store? Yeah, I noticed that too. Are there any articles in any of those $10.00+ magazines for women about the Buddy System? Yeah, 2009 Cosmopolitan. So did that stop the tide of rape and torture in our world? Nope, not enough info and talk to make a difference? So how do we make a difference with our literature? Bombard magazines for women with requests for articles about the Buddy System? Bombard weekly or daily so that every women's magazine, including Southern Living, and Reader's Digest, and decorating magazines include a column or article about the Buddy System for women so we are not raped and tortured! Make hashtags on Twitter and anything else we appear on with #BuddySystem, #buddysystem included so that we raise awareness. Do you realize that we are being raped and tortured and our sisters, aunts, mothers and daughters are being raped and tortured every day and night that goes by? Where did I get this idea? Andrea Parrot The author of these books, Andrea Parrot is in an article in 2009, and there haven't been 500,000 more articles. There have been 500,000 and more rapes since 2009. Read Murder on the Silver Comet Trail to learn more about the #BuddySystem please.

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Going on trips alone

When you get on a train or another mode of public transportation (planes, trains, helicopters, buses) look for another woman to sit with. If she gets off, go to another part of the train with women. Don't stand around with men and expect them to be on their best behavior at the other end of the train.

If you have any stories, please share.

When you are alone this week at home or in your car, yell "FIRE" to practice. If one day someone attacks you, this will not be the last thing you think of doing. Practice yelling "FIRE!" every day once or twice when you are alone. If you have a family, tell your children to yell "FIRE" to help your family practice. Many people won't remember because "FIRE" is illegal to yell in a public place when you are just standing around. It is OK to yell when you are being hurt/mugged/raped/abducted, did you know that???? Yes indeed!

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Do you have a story of asking someone

  to go with you somewhere? How many times do people say no because they don't think anyone will hurt you because we are in such a safe place?

Look at to find the crime in your area. If you don't want anything to happen to you, then you go to public places with no history of crime. That means the guy who wants to go to a gym calls the shots because he doesn't want to go for a walk in the woods. This is why we need to find friends who will walk with us. 

One alternative is to go to a bench near the trail you will walk on and wait for someone who would like someone to walk with you. Yes, you can wait for someone to walk or ride with you. I saw it over and over again at the Silver Comet Trail. I show up and tell people they are safer with someone else, two men are sitting with me, and they don't know each other, and they leave with each other to protect each other. It happens. Wait for someone to walk with you on trail. Speak to other women in parking lots. They will look out for you if you are nice and acknowledge them. They will remember you if you are abducted. There are reasons we need each other.

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

It is too much trouble to use the Buddy System

  Is that why men don't use the Buddy System?

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Buddy System song writing contest

    The winner wins an autoharp with new strings. Write a song, sing it, with chords from a tuning app like Clear Tune, and post it on Youtube for a chance to win a fixed up autoharp. I will mail it to anywhere in the USA before  Thanksgiving. New strings, new chord bar with 21 chords. You can compose like Dolly Parton would with a new autoharp. 

Send your song videos to starting 8/26/2016. ONE entry a month. August, September, October, November means only 4 entries. 

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Buddy System stickers for cell phones

No one comments on my posts, so I do not expect spam or abuse.

Today I went to another church. A Church of God called West Metro. The music was full of praise and there were people filled with the spirit praisging God. The pastor made comments about following God. He didn't mention the cross, persecution, sexism, martyrdom, or suffering at all. It was depressing that ministry is so easy for him and the worst thing he has to consider is whether someone will make meatballs or pound cake for him or others. 

One person did talk to me about the autoharp from the music ministry. A leader who teaches music. I gave him the info about Autoharp Angels and people who cannot afford a musical instrument getting an autoharp that is donated. I then had a chance to show a young woman what an autoharp sounds like, and played it for her. Her Mom was there and she called me Hon. The young woman was excited I told her about it and the price. I said it cost $400, and then she would not need lessons. She could pluck, strum and read the ABCs of guitar/uke/banjo/autoharp tabs/chords, and she could have picks so she never needed blisters and callouses on her fingers. If I had gone to Sunday School, I would have been more cheerful and happy at the end of it. If you get a chance read Post Traumatic Church Syndrome. That is why this year I will go to a different church this year every Sunday.

Saturday, July 2, 2016

Do you share this blog with anyone?

  What would happen if people did share this post? There is a campaign for people to feel safe. A safety pin #SafetyPin to use a symbol to help people know that the person is willing to be kind and civil to anyone who is not like them. There is an increase of racism and hate crimes after the vote of the UK to leave the EU. 

Be kind.

Thursday, June 23, 2016


     Hobbies that make our world better for each one of us are back to the basics. Cooper's Lowrey  Organ Center is offering piano lessons for 10 weeks for $19.99. Two dollars a lesson? Pretty impressive! Will someone become a wonderful musician in 10 weeks? Nope. The benefit is using the mind so the person is not demented. People with dementia are demented. When do people become demented? When they are young it begins. Keep the brain active and use the Buddy System 4 2!



Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Woes to Wows

    I wrote a daily devotional called Molested: Prayers on the website Woes to Wows.  with 600 hits or readers a week. The difference with molestation and the Buddy System? Could it be that people care with molestation if it happened to them. The people who don't use the Buddy System may not care. 

Have you told anyone about the Buddy System? Have you shared the link to this blog? If you don't, who will?

Friday, June 10, 2016

How safe do you think you are

     Today I took my car into a dealership to get the gas sensor fixed. I made the mistake of telling some of the people at the business I wrote Murder on the Silver Comet Trail. I talked to him about one of the causes murder, which is porn and rape. Is that the reason no one looked at the car today? I don't know. There is a chance that I am risking my safety or life by being honest about what I wrote and telling people I don't know that I am trying to change the world by telling women to use the Buddy System.

I want to make the world safer. Is that possible with men? Can men make a difference? I hope so.

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Where is my Buddy System Sign?

      I spent $40 on a sign that says BUDDY SYSTEM. 

Where could that sign be?

If a woman blacks out when she is drinking, and she is raped, how bad does that look for her? If a woman is drugged with a rape drug to make her pass out, how bad does that make her look? What if she had someone with her watching her glass so that she would be safer? What if both women had weapons and knew self defense?

Why do young adults go to parties with a large number of men? Has anyone told these women what to expect from young men?

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Has anyone struggled to find a speaker for school or church or Rotary?

    Yes, sometimes I speak. I was an adjunct faculty member at Mercer University for more than 4 years, a preschool teacher, a substitute teacher, a chaplain, and a visiting minister to several churches. I am an ordained Southern Baptist minister who preached in many hospitals and nursing homes and never in a Southern Baptist church. They never asked me and I am not forward. 

I would like to speak about the Buddy System. It is a game changer.  So far everything that revolves around men teaches men the Buddy System. Nothing that revolves around women teaches/pushes/stresses/requires a Buddy System

I have ideas about how to change that. Ask me to be a speaker. My fee is any donation people will give when asked!!! I have been promised donations and then no one was asked to donate and I received nothing for my time and effort. I want a better outcome for something that needs more exposure. What could I do with resources? Give me a list and I will tell you how to change the game so women are safer.

Friday, April 15, 2016

Tea for Two

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